Pre-married life wasn’t always a cake walk for us. As I’ve mentioned before, we come from very different families and have very different ways of living our every day lives. Somehow, though, with a bit of magic and a lot of love, we’ve made it here.
and this place, y’all. . . it’s sweet. I know marriage isn’t always easy, but maybe we struggled enough before getting married that we earned ourselves a stretch of time in this sweet spot.
Because right now, married life looks real good on us. Even if you might not be able to tell how good it looks on us by looking at us. We aren’t sleeping enough or exercising enough. not even close to enough.We eat as healthy as our hective lives will allow. We are moving all the time.
Things seem still to be swirling around us, and yet, 9 times out of 10, as long as we’re together we’ve got smiles on our faces.
These are the days.
+I am dreaming of babies. Those of you who know me well will find this as no surprise. I may have been dreaming about babies for most my life. And now when starting a family seems closer than ever, I feel not only strongly drawn towards starting a family but also focused each day on being present in our lives as they are without children. Our lives are just as they should be right now. And they will be just as they should be whenever we’re ready to have kids. I feel like I’ve we’ve got a few more things to do first.
Until then, I’m enjoying these moments. My husband looks at me like he’s carrying something bigger than love inside him. He’s a man of few (emotional) words, but man those looks.
And this is just the beginning.
These are the days.
+We are still (after three years) trying to find a way to make our apartment our own. We are staying put. We dream of more space and less mold. We dream of storage and “extra” rooms and dishwashers.
But I know that we’re doing the right thing by staying put right now. It’s hard to know what move to play next when your talking about housing in San Francisco. For now, however long that is, we’re fine right where we are.
I know that some day when we are in bigger/more, we will look back on these days in this little apartment in the amazing neighborhood, secret garden yard, with unbeatable restaurants around the corner and the sunshine at our back-when we played cards on week nights with our friends and had sunday family dinners-when I made veggie casserole every other week, and we picked rosemary from the bush out front and had bonfires in the backyard-when we watched all of the West Wing and Supernatural-when we celebrated and mourned and were single then married and build some shared (big & little) dreams-
we will look back on these days and think
those were the days.
So for now, I’m trying to live them slowly and savor them, because I know all too well how quickly they will pass.