It always seems to me that when life has been throwing me curveballs in one area (let’s say my job), somehow in my other main areas of my life (friends, my marriage) things are coming up roses. It’s as if my life is naturally balancing itself. Very rarely am I really struggling in every key area.
Right now, my marriage is the rock that is helping me through other challenges. A look, a hug, or a laugh from the hubs can make all the difference to me at the end of a difficult day.
Every time I see this quotation by Walt Whitman it makes me smile, and I immediately start thinking about people and the sum of our experiences. I have so many memories with Not Merely Husband that I can pull up and remember. I might not remember all the specific details of those moments – the twinkle in his eye, or what he was wearing, or even what he said in a given moment – but over time the sum of those memories and moments build into this feeling of deep trust and appreciation and comfort. I think the same thing happens with friends and family.
We were together. I forget the rest.
Somehow those two phrases seem to so simply represent the wholeness of a great relationship (romantic or otherwise). It’s the sum of all of those moments – the time spent and shared, all the laughter after the jokes are long forgotten, being loved unconditionally, that safe feeling of exhaling with someone who knows you so well – that build a relationship.
As we head into the holidays, I am so looking forward to some quality together time.
What does this quote make you think of? Did you smile immediately when you read it like me?